Saturday, April 21, 2007

The Great Nappy Challenge


Being a first time parent is quiet a challenging role most especially when you are the one taking care of your bundle of joy.



When I got pregnant my husband and I decided that I take a break from work and concentrate on the care giving side. I also wanted to know what it feels like being a mother who has to take care of the baby 24/7. I thought it would just be a piece of cake. Having watched my mother raise my younger siblings splendidly, I thought what could be so hard besides the baby cant even lift its head let alone move fast enough or do some things that would wreak havoc.



Having to constantly clean, care and maintain the navel free from infection until its stump falls off is already a heart-stopping activity. You should have seen me panic like a wretched freak calling the pediatrician when the stump finally fell off. Boy that is one scary experience for me. By the way, my baby is fine when his navel's stump or cord drops off because that was just a natural thing to happen. No biggy.



Another challenging thing posed before me is the nappy changing time. But before that I was in a major dilemma as to what type of diaper I should buy. Should I buy the cloth or the disposable type. If I choose to buy the cloth type I would be doing nature a favor because I helped reduced the consumption of wood pulp, reduce deforestation, and lessen the clogging of landfills. I also have to take into consideration the type of cleaning aid I have to use in washing the cloth nappies. I have to make sure that it does not irritate my baby's sensitive skin and don't pollute the water as well. Choosing cloth nappies is fine. It reduces our expenses but it consumes a lot of my time washing soiled nappies. Boy! the small bundle of joy could produce a huge bundle of laundry. I am just talking about the nappies.



Sleep deprived as I am I maintained myself to stay focused, have a positive disposition and enjoy motherhood. So I decided to switch to disposable diapers. In this way I have more time for other things like sleep, play with my baby, feed him, sleep, do the chores and sleep. It pains me to think that I am destroying mother nature by helping add more garbage and destroying those poor innocent trees. But I do want to keep my sanity and get somethings done otherwise my house would become a pile of garbage and that would be bad for my baby.



Disposable nappies is indeed convenient and absorbs more fluid than the cloth counterpart. Does that sound like coming from a nappy commercial? Disposable diapers can seem dry because they absorb moisture well but still need changing about as often as cloth. This really but a significant weight on our budget. But it gave me a bit of a time for a cat nap.



Changing nappy depends on on how often the baby wets or pees and whenever he has a bowel movement. It is very important to change baby's nappy as soon as it is wet otherwise the ammonia content of the urine will give baby a rash once it becomes in contact with the skin. Before you put on a fresh nappy make sure that you air dry first baby's skin otherwise baby will still get that rash. No need to wash the baby when changing a wet nappy. Don't forget to wash your hands once your done changing diapers in order to prevent the spread of harmful germs.



Whenever there is a bowel movement, it is important to wipe from front to back especially if your baby is a girl. Girls are prone to infection if not cleaned properly. For my son, and for other baby boys, put a spare nappy loosely or a clean cloth over the penis until your ready to fasten the nappy; this will keep you from getting sprayed if he urinates before you're done. Remember to let the skin air dry before putting on the fresh one. I always forgot to place a spare nappy or cloth thus I always get sprayed. Most importantly when changing nappies, the baby is safely fasten or is not left alone to prevent him from falling or any accident. Always put one hand on baby that way he cant move about while you are taking the soiled nappy away. Prepare everything you need for the changing session and at arms length for baby's safety and convenience.



I still have not mastered the art of not getting sprayed on. Hmmm...maybe I still need to get a lot of rest. I think I should go and get that cat nap while baby is still asleep.





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Thursday, April 19, 2007

To Tell or Not To Tell

There were a lot of things we take for granted or we think we ought to have as a privilege for being legally bound to our partner.



I was asked one time if it is okay to open one's mail or even read a text message addressed to one's spouse. I advised that it is highly unethical and creates a bad impression that you don't trust your own spouse. If there are children around, what kind of values are you showing to your kids?



Even though two people have gotten married doesn't mean one has every right to a full disclosure of the other partner's activities etcetera. Even the family's monthly bills if it is addressed to the other partner you still have to wait and ask permission to open it though you share to pay for it. Preposterous it may sound but that is the proper thing to do.



We should never forget to give our 100% trust and respect to our partners and that includes giving them personal space and privacy. One of the nice things about being married to someone is we have a lifetime to spend getting to know each other, help each other become better and grow old knowing we have someone whom we can trust and lean on.







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